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As to the child to believe in the forces

| IN VICTORY, a hot

Often to us happens easier to make something for the child because, to tell the truth, we are able to do (make) all much faster and more rationally. But, arriving so, we deprive of its (his) possibility to learn a life on own experience. If your child tries to put on boots and speaks to you: "I am not able", and you know, that earlier it (he) coped with it, smile and leave a room. At all do not ask it (him) and do not stand (cost) at it (him) "over soul". You...>>

How to learn the child not to be mistaken

5 councils (advice)

| IN VICTORY, December 2007

We dull feelings of children, stating about the following: "Unless it is possible so to hate native sister!" "As it is possible to be hungry, you after all only have eaten". "Your mum has left only for some days, therefore it is not necessary to mourn". "The big boys do not cry". "Same it is not sick". "After all you do not wish it to do (make)". Judgements of a similar sort deprive of the child of the right to feel that he really feels. They learn (teach) it (him) not to trust the...>>

Three secrets of education

| IN VICTORY, November 2007

Not to punish, and to motivate Punishment generates fear. We can so it (him) to frighten the child, that as a result he will cease to behave at once badly. But it only visibility of that punishment has worked. If attentively to observe the child after punishment, we can notice, that he tries to find ways to settle scores with the offenders. It (He) can tease younger sisters, brothers or pets, to receive bad estimations at school...>>

“I - the message” or “You-message?”

Or how to learn to influence the child

| IN VICTORY, October 2007

"The main thought at dialogue: the child - the person equal to us. So it is simple. But the recognition of it overturns soul of the adult and gives happiness to children" (S.Soloveychik). Often enough children the behaviour cause negative experiences in parents and teachers. And here we, as a rule, start to react to them in the familiar ways: to shout, subject to criticism, to punish, and so on. But for some reason the behaviour of children from it does not improve, and even...>>

As we bring up and as it is necessary

| IN VICTORY, September 2007

Throughout centuries the unique approved way of education: a personal example of seniors, and to it (him) a garnish - belief. But here there were the "clever" heads which have considered that is enough "garnish". Look the textbook on pedagogics and you are convinced, that among methods of education the personal example or is absent or on the importance costs (stands) on last place. And here decades read boring notations (so the belief is realised) and to it education is reduced....>>

HYPERGUARDIANSHIP or how correctly to care of the child

| IN VICTORY, August 2007

Every day it is necessary for child to sit not moving almost five-six lessons in stuffy premises. As a result it leads and to bad mood. At school (yes not only at school) there is no normal psychological climate: 40 % of schoolboys do not wish to visit (attend) school, 90 % do not see in the name of teachers of the senior companion, 20 % of psychological frustration of schoolboys lay on conscience of teachers. As a whole, the school frequently beats off desire to study and...>>

Correct atmosphere in a family

| IN VICTORY, July 2007

"The main school of education of children are mutual relations of the husband and the wife, the father and mother", - has told Suhomlinsky. On importance these relations exceed all others, including relations the parent-child. That, how much original sincere bonds connect the parent and the child, and how the child feels the place in the world and the safety, depends on depth and sincerity of relations of the husband and the wife. What they? We will recollect atmosphere of an average family:...>>

The education alphabet

Or how to find the approach to your child

| IN VICTORY, June 2007

Education — oldest of human affairs, because it seems simple work: all consult, and we will consult. Actually it is deceptive and even is artful. In an antiquity it (him) considered from employment (occupations), art from arts. Really, in any human activity results do not differ so strikingly from the spent efforts. How many we bring up, and to sense is not present... What includes education? The EDUCATION ESSENCE: training...>>

Dedication and dialogue

| IN VICTORY, May 2007

Now I wish to talk about two practical moments which will help to make your mutual relations rather happy and to correct those errors (mistakes) which have been admitted (allowed) earlier, and now deliver troubles. Several years ago, when the married couple which had a problem, came on consultation one of the very first questions who was set by it (him), was: "And whether you pray together?" If the answer was "is not present", pair sent home...>>

Where to me to find the partner in life

| IN VICTORY, April 2007

So, what turns out? There, where we search — anybody is not present, then where is? Where there are our potential elects and darlings. Allow me to encourage you: they are also them much. Where? Look at the world — what it (he) huge! Really you think, what in such big world there is no person who will be loved by you and which will love you? It is assured (confident), that is. Six billions, ­... And even if devoted Christians from them — all the tenth part...>>

"There is there nobody!"

Or the factor of small groups

| IN VICTORY, March 2007

"There is there nobody!" — these words one unmarried girlfriend of my wife when speech has come that it is necessary to choose the groom from church has told to me. Yes, yes, so she also has told. Yes what to speak? You and know: you will look to the right, on the left, forward, back, and "worthy" that and is not present anybody. It is assured (confident), many of you too spoke these words with deep disappointment. Moreover, the girlfriend lived in capital and what to speak about churches in regions? Here also go...>>

Mirages and disappointments

How to alter the favourite person

| IN VICTORY, February 2007

As though you felt yourselves, being in desert where on hundreds kilometres on the right and to the left of you hot sand were stretched, and at you some days in a mouth was not neither a uniform crumb of meal and nor a uniform drop of water? Probably, emaciated from thirst, you would try to move ahead in any certain direction in hope though somewhere to reach … the Sun bakes, sand burns down, and you on a limit of the forces trudge forward. Though to tell "forward" it is not absolutely pertinent — after all "...>>

By magic

Than the riches of the groom can turn back

| IN VICTORY, January 2007

It is literally one of these days, I have called on one important enough person. We will tell so, it (he) holds a high post at itself (himself) on work. When I have approached (suited) to its (his) apartment has seen, that the door is a little slightly opened. I have pushed it (her), and it (she) has easily given in. In apartment the full chaos reigned: all was in a dust and cement, places had been scattered paper and cellophane shreds, walls have been peeled (fleeced), and the furniture has at all disappeared. No, be not frightened before time — to it (him) not...>>

Diplomacy miracles

Or how to get on with each other

| IN VICTORY, December 2006

Here one more extremely important theme. So important, that if not to acquire its (her) basic principles your life will turn to similarity of fight at Waterloo, cruelty known to historians and. Do not think, that I intentionally exaggerate — absolutely was not present. I know, about what I speak. Certainly, blood usually does not reach, but family quarrels very often remind any military battle in which each of the parties (sides) fights not for a life, and on...>>

Gold antelope

Or how to marry the rich

| IN VICTORY, November 2006

Somehow one young girl has told to us with Natalia about the following: — I meet one guy, and it (he), in general, is pleasant to me. Not that it is strong but to live it is possible. But it (he) has a tremendous car (machine)! If you saw, what it (she) expensive! At all I do not know, whether it is necessary for me to search for someone another? — Actually, and by what principle you define, the young man approaches (suits) you or not, — we have taken an interest. It is very simple, — she has told, —...>>

Trust question

Or how to be rescued (saved) from jealousy

| IN VICTORY, October 2006

At last, the guy and the girl have got acquainted and have started to meet. "As it is romantic!" — many will exclaim, recollecting days of the appointments. Yes, here it is really enough romanticism. But whether you know, what the period of appointments is as well the most difficult (complex) period in relations of the guy and the girl? Still: at this time there is so-called "grinding in" when in the name of the guy and the girl absolutely different two worlds face the rules, traditions...>>

How to achieve the guy? A part 3

Or try to understand man's psychology

| IN VICTORY, September 2006

What do I mean? Whether you reflected sometime what the psychology of the man and the woman strongly enough differ among themselves? Priorities, desires, dreams, ideals, aspirations — all miscellaneous. There are no, of course, they different at EACH person but if to allocate an average man's and average female image they will differ strongly with each other. Than? Here about it we also will talk — on an extreme measure, about the core. Whether see, each of us is inclined judge...>>

How to achieve the guy? - 2

Reject an ideal image

| IN VICTORY, August 2006

The second principle consists in rejecting that image of the ideal man which lives in your consciousness. No, I do not speak about to having at all any reference points. Certainly, no. Reference points should be — and differently on what our tastes and liking will be under construction? However, time of the girl build in the imagination so detailed portrait of the future elect, that simply you wonder. Here to you both a hair colour, and tone of a voice, and colour...>>

How to achieve the guy - 1

It is not necessary to play " "

| IN VICTORY, July 2006

So often we had to communicate with girls, each of which was as speak "completely" is enamoured in any guy and improbably suffered that he does not pay to it (her) any attention. After, however, it was found out, that this guy even did not guess that it (he) is pleasant to this girl — differently he necessarily would get acquainted with it (her)! Yes, the maiden pride is a thing obstinate. And, nevertheless, the majority of girls suffer because of it (her)....>>

How to achieve a hand of the girl - 3

Combine the romanticist and an expert

| IN VICTORY, June 2006

The third principle consists in that the man could combine the romanticist and an expert — at first sight, qualities absolutely incompatible, but absolutely necessary to make happy your significant other. Romanticism... Without it (her) the man turns to the dry and prudent calculator, which in itself neither is bad and nor is good — it (he) simply calculator. Even the robot known for all Werther from the children's film which has made a noise in due time "...>>

How to achieve a hand of the girl - 2

Concern the girl, as to the princess

| IN VICTORY, May 2006

The Writing prompts to us about it in Peter's first message: "As well you, husbands, address reasonably with wives, as with not most powerful vessel, doing their the honour..." (1.3:7). And pay attention: Peter does not say, that women are not most powerful vessels, he speaks, that we, men, ADDRESSED with them, as with not most powerful vessels. Reading this place of the Writing it is inattentive, many men do (make) an amazing conclusion that all women...>>

How to achieve a hand of the girl

The man should be the man

| IN VICTORY, April 2006

How to achieve the guy or the girl? Probably, at once it became interesting to all. If girls not against I will begin with you. How to achieve a hand of the girl? By the way, at once I wish to ask for you, girls, pardons in case I will open any your secrets, but believe: knowing them, guys will get acquainted much more safely with you. So, perhaps, all from it only it will be better. Actually, in a gain of the girl there are three major principles, following which...>>

Ode to Hollywood

Or the legend on the prince on a white game (horse)

| IN VICTORY, March 2006

Actually, how them to begin these relations? Many already at this stage see before themselves an unsoluble problem. Someone is afraid to approach (suit) to the girl, and someone does not dare to get acquainted with the guy. As all occurs (happens)? I wish to encourage at once you and to tell, that actually all is much easier, than can seem at first sight. To begin with let's dispel illusions. How usually imagine acquaintance the majority of guys? Here it (he), the invincible hero, and...>>

Engagement: what is it?

| IN VICTORY, February 2006

Last time we have started to speak about appointments and have come to conclusion, that they are improbably important. Tell to me for what? Correctly — that the young pair, could solve, whether they approach (suit) each other or not. But how many here at once has arisen questions: whether it is possible to kiss before wedding how to look after the girl, how to please the guy, how to propose marriage, whether engagement is necessary, whether it is possible to break off engagement what to do (make) with meek love and much others....>>

Spring all year long or what for appointments are necessary

| IN VICTORY, December 2005

So, love has come to you, you cannot live without the certain person, all your thoughts are occupied (borrowed) by it (him), and you feel, that you are happy. What to do (make) now? Many wrongly believe, that now has come it is time to marry (or to marry). Many and arrive, then very long regret for this precipitate act. And all why? Yes because after you have understood, that are enamoured, has come it is time not to marry, and to meet. Yes, yes, yes...>>

To think it is necessary a head

Or how to operate feelings

| IN VICTORY, November 2005

How to learn, what love has come to you to be on the alert? "The silly question, — you will tell, — who does not understand, what it (he) is enamoured?" So it so. But if all also came to an end with it, round us there would be no so much unfortunate families. How the person when to it (him) love comes usually reacts? Let's present the ordinary young man who goes to church and lives a usual Christian life. He wishes to marry and has already depicted...>>

Love and nuclear reaction

| IN VICTORY, October 2005

All of us are subject to this feeling, however, far not all are able to operate it (him). Being are enamoured, many people start to make such decisions which never would accept in the normal condition. They are ready to give everything, that at them is, are ready to destroy the families, are ready to leave though on a world's end, having left everything to what aspired, are ready to change the ideals and belief... I Remember, how one dear Christian attendant has shared with me the...>>

Whether will solve marriage your problems?

| IN VICTORY, September 2005

Last time we said about the second myth in a choice of the partner in life, namely that "after wedding all will change". We Also have come here to what conclusion: it is necessary to look at the person, instead of for its (his) last or next image which you, probably, have created for it (him) in your imagination. Have recollected? Then we pass to last, third myth which sounds so: MARRIAGE will solve YOUR PROBLEMS. Somehow time I talked to the lonely woman who once already was...>>

Whether all will change after wedding?

| IN VICTORY, August 2005

So, last time we have stopped on that fact, that very often people choose the partner in life, making a start from what does not suffice him. So, for example, the quiet counterbalanced guy can like very active and bright girl. It (He) is involved in it (her) with these qualities because they always lacked it (him). And it (she), in turn, likes its (his) calmness and steadiness because it always did not suffice it (her). As a result the union among themselves...>>

How to start to meet and not to be mistaken?

| IN VICTORY, July 2005

For the life I have seen many married couples which practically always are in a condition of quarrel with each other. Their life reminds more likely theatre of operations, rather than family idyll. More recently, on my eyes the Christian family would collapse like safe at first sight. Like all would be: children, apartment, work, service... And suddenly – divorce. All of a sudden. But it, certainly, only at first sight. As Natalia speaks...>>

How to operate love

Or to think it is necessary a head

| IN VICTORY, June 2004

From time immemorial poets and writers sing of it (her) in the immortal products, the film industry does (makes) on it (her) billions dollars, and each of us, since the first classes of school, many times tested its (her) amazing experience... As you have guessed, it is a question of love – the strong feeling from what we ever tested. We know, that love can deliver pleasure and hurt, inspire and break hearts, build about...>>

The ALPHABET of ACQUAINTANCE or that wanted by the woman

| IN VICTORY, March 2004

The very first and the most important – the man should be the man. From time immemorial men battled for a hand and heart of the woman, showing thus all qualities inherent in the real man: boldness, resoluteness, courage, courage, gallantry and set of others. Why has developed so, rather the reverse, – I do not know. Apparently, the god thus has created the man and the woman. Presently, in a century of new trends in relations between men and to women...>>

How to keep love in marriage

| IN VICTORY, January 2004

Each of us somewhere in a shower (soul) knows, that dialogue strengthens marriage and keeps it (him) from destruction, and ability to listen, helps to understand the spouse and to support (maintain) it (him) during the necessary moment. However, it is difficult to present the dialogue consisting from one only of ability to listen. Certainly, dialogue is also ability to keep up the conversation. It is difficult to name dialogue two monologue. There is time when we attentively listen to person expensive to us and try to give to its (his) advice, and...>>

Secrets of happy marriage

| IN VICTORY, October 2003

Several years ago, when the married couple which had a problem, came on consultation one of the very first questions who was set by it (him), was: "And whether you pray together?" If the answer was "is not present", pair sent home assiduously together to pray, and if spouses all the same together prayed, the type phrase became the answer: "Well, then the God will resolve all your problems. Go home, and all will be good". It, unfortunately, is far not...>>

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